This is written so so beautifully. I've come to terms with the fact not all good friendships need to be deep or soul crushing. Sometimes the best someone can give you is hold your hand and watch a movie at odd times of the night. All your friends don't need to be perfectly compatible with you. You don't have to like the same shows or movies. Sometimes it's just "I love the tea you make" and "I bought your favourite drink because you're over". Sometimes that's friendship. And no less worth than the deep, soul crushing ones. I've felt this way about so many of my family members and classmates and you somehow explain that feeling perfectly. Amazing writing, I don't understand how this isn't all over my substack already. Love this ♡♡
You described it all so well and i've also had to confront that reality face to face over the past year or so! We limit ourselves so much as humans instead of being open to all the different kinds of people that can add to our lives in their own way. Thank you SO much for reading and for your kind words, I'll remember them <3
Oh how much I love every single word! I relate so much and sometimes can’t understand how people just..be and Im like measuring the ways I interact or do certain things. This is a great reminder to just be and live in the moment rather than overthink it🤍🤍
I relate to this so much as a super introspective and contemplative person. My family also has big feelings and grandiose emotions. My mom and aunts cry at the drop of a hat, a kind word spoken or a meaningful moment. My mom always pushed me in a way to feel more, perhaps more like she does. I did so in my own way but it was like she thought it was bad of me to not cry or feel things and that I just needed to let it out, but sometimes there’s nothing to let out.
I have noticed times when I had the highest hopes for my day that revolved around this one thing I wanted to do and that was the only thing that mattered, as long as I got to do that thing I’d be content, say going to the coffee shop and reading for a few hours. If that one thing didn’t happen for some reason, plans changing or whatnot, I would be utterly disappointed and regretful about my day instead of just appreciating it for what it was. Because I had set my deepest desires on this one thing, it controlled me and anything that happened outside of that, despite how wonderful it may be, was not sufficient.
oh boy i know exactly what you mean! and the thing is you go about it all so comfortably and without question and one day you realize that it just isn't working anymore and it turns into this huge existential journey. in a way i'm grateful to have the capacity to feel so grandiosely while also, now, being able to practice unwavering presence and existential filtration when it comes to the personal experiences on the day to day. not many go through life with the ability to feel it all so deeply at any given time and when it isn't exhausting it's actually the most beautiful thing. thank you so much for sharing. always nice to meet likeminded humans who have walked similar, non identical paths!
Lovely story of you and your sister-in-law and your subsequent journey of self-reflection and maybe some existential dread haha.
I like the message and question. As a poet, I tend to think a lot about moments as I live them, because often they are what becomes my poems. But not everything needs to become a poem and not everything is worth thinking about. Sometimes you just ought to be. Very well penned, this post. There is freedom in not being tied to time. Now is good enough.
"Now is good enough" :') beautifully said. so simple and so profound. i'm so glad this resonated. it's kinda like the idea that stepping away from your art or your writing helps you approach it in a healthier way, makes it more 'complete'. and i think the same applies to life and time.
being the 'soul-touchy' person in my family definitely gets me made fun of,, but I've always embraced how I can freak out over the sight of the moon or sitting with my mom and sisters and having a cup of tea. it all comes way too naturally to me and I can't shut down the feeling of just,, feeling? this post definitely also got me in the feels haha. I hope I can learn to live in the present instead of turning it into a memory filled with nostalgia. thank you for this.
I think it simply sounds like you're a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and possibly on the autism spectrum - honestly, it sounds like your sister-in-law is neurotypical!
Oh my wow. There nothing more comforting than realizing there are people out there that are more similar to us than we imagine. This means more than you know, thank you so much Hana <3
This is written so so beautifully. I've come to terms with the fact not all good friendships need to be deep or soul crushing. Sometimes the best someone can give you is hold your hand and watch a movie at odd times of the night. All your friends don't need to be perfectly compatible with you. You don't have to like the same shows or movies. Sometimes it's just "I love the tea you make" and "I bought your favourite drink because you're over". Sometimes that's friendship. And no less worth than the deep, soul crushing ones. I've felt this way about so many of my family members and classmates and you somehow explain that feeling perfectly. Amazing writing, I don't understand how this isn't all over my substack already. Love this ♡♡
You described it all so well and i've also had to confront that reality face to face over the past year or so! We limit ourselves so much as humans instead of being open to all the different kinds of people that can add to our lives in their own way. Thank you SO much for reading and for your kind words, I'll remember them <3
Oh how much I love every single word! I relate so much and sometimes can’t understand how people just..be and Im like measuring the ways I interact or do certain things. This is a great reminder to just be and live in the moment rather than overthink it🤍🤍
‘Measuring’!! Exactly!! So glad this resonated and served someway somehow 🥹🫶🏼
Loved it :)
Thank you 🥹
I relate to this so much as a super introspective and contemplative person. My family also has big feelings and grandiose emotions. My mom and aunts cry at the drop of a hat, a kind word spoken or a meaningful moment. My mom always pushed me in a way to feel more, perhaps more like she does. I did so in my own way but it was like she thought it was bad of me to not cry or feel things and that I just needed to let it out, but sometimes there’s nothing to let out.
I have noticed times when I had the highest hopes for my day that revolved around this one thing I wanted to do and that was the only thing that mattered, as long as I got to do that thing I’d be content, say going to the coffee shop and reading for a few hours. If that one thing didn’t happen for some reason, plans changing or whatnot, I would be utterly disappointed and regretful about my day instead of just appreciating it for what it was. Because I had set my deepest desires on this one thing, it controlled me and anything that happened outside of that, despite how wonderful it may be, was not sufficient.
oh boy i know exactly what you mean! and the thing is you go about it all so comfortably and without question and one day you realize that it just isn't working anymore and it turns into this huge existential journey. in a way i'm grateful to have the capacity to feel so grandiosely while also, now, being able to practice unwavering presence and existential filtration when it comes to the personal experiences on the day to day. not many go through life with the ability to feel it all so deeply at any given time and when it isn't exhausting it's actually the most beautiful thing. thank you so much for sharing. always nice to meet likeminded humans who have walked similar, non identical paths!
Oh, and love the title haha. "Not that deep bro"
Gotta love both types of ppl. The 2D, take it for what it is, and the 3D, take it for all the depth it could be, types of ppl.
Hah, that was actually one of my working titles! Glad you could hear the underlying tone of it! Thanks so much for being and reading!
You're most welcome!
Lovely story of you and your sister-in-law and your subsequent journey of self-reflection and maybe some existential dread haha.
I like the message and question. As a poet, I tend to think a lot about moments as I live them, because often they are what becomes my poems. But not everything needs to become a poem and not everything is worth thinking about. Sometimes you just ought to be. Very well penned, this post. There is freedom in not being tied to time. Now is good enough.
"Now is good enough" :') beautifully said. so simple and so profound. i'm so glad this resonated. it's kinda like the idea that stepping away from your art or your writing helps you approach it in a healthier way, makes it more 'complete'. and i think the same applies to life and time.
oh my. youve put my feelings which i couldnt articulate into perfect words. i couldnt relate more. so beautiful 🩷
I think compliments like this are what give writers purpose if they don’t have one already 🥺 thank you so much
being the 'soul-touchy' person in my family definitely gets me made fun of,, but I've always embraced how I can freak out over the sight of the moon or sitting with my mom and sisters and having a cup of tea. it all comes way too naturally to me and I can't shut down the feeling of just,, feeling? this post definitely also got me in the feels haha. I hope I can learn to live in the present instead of turning it into a memory filled with nostalgia. thank you for this.
I think it simply sounds like you're a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and possibly on the autism spectrum - honestly, it sounds like your sister-in-law is neurotypical!
Oh my wow. There nothing more comforting than realizing there are people out there that are more similar to us than we imagine. This means more than you know, thank you so much Hana <3